Thursday, February 19, 2015

Fifty Shades of NOPE

Disclaimer: I really want to read/see Fifty Shades of Grey. *GASP*
Why, you ask? My curiosity is killing me! Is it as good as everyone says? It can’t be that naughty, can it? Do they really sign a contract about sex? The book can’t be that descriptive…can it?

It is plastered on bookshelves, all over the radio, TV commercials, and Target aisles…I WANT TO KNOW WHAT EVERYONE IS TALKING ABOUT. That is my human nature. I feel left out…I’m curious!

(Please note: I am not bashing those who have read it or seen the movie! If you think my opinion will offend you, then simply stop reading here! Everyone is entitled to his or her own choice, opinion, etc. And this is mine!)

However, based on the few things that I know about this book-gone-movie, I cannot indulge my curiosities. *Spoiler Alert: The book “traces the deepening relationship between a college graduate, Anastasia Steele, and a young business magnate, Christian Grey. It is notable for its explicitly erotic scenes featuring elements of sexual practices involving bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism (BDSM).”

Sounds raunchy, but exciting! Whips, chains, am I right?!?! Well of course it does! Sex sells. Especially this kind of sex. It is taboo! Forbidden! It is like an adult version of Twilight, minus the vampires. Tweens and adult woman alike crave it! It has been deemed “mommy porn” for goodness sake. It has been banned in Indonesia, Kenya, Cambodia, and Malaysia for being "sadistic and more like pornography than a movie."

But what if I gave in to my curiosities and temptations and just read the dang book or saw the movie? The list of cons greatly outweighs the pros.

As I have stated in a previous blog post, sex is not bad. But in my opinion, this type of sex is bad. It is pornography: The representation in books, magazines, photographs, films, and other media of scenes of sexual behavior that are erotic or lewd and are designed to arouse sexual interest. Lust is the foundation and driving source of this title.


Mini Tangent: Let us flip this around!
LADIES! Would you be okay if your boyfriend/fiancĂ©/husband wanted to see a movie about a sexy, irresistible woman that pursued a naive man and convinced him to engage in BDSM (whipping, beating, etc) and loveless sex?  To be frank, I would hate that! I would feel sick if Jake wanted to see a 90-minute film about perversions of sex or read a book about it. I do not want him watching (or reading) pornography. And I am sure he does not want me to watch or read it either. 

Matthew 5:28, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
You can easily take this verse and switch the him/her.
But I tell you that anyone who looks at a man lustfully has already committed adultery with him in her heart.

To the few who are thinking, “Of course I am okay with that. Pornography keeps things exciting. I would go see the movie with my man!”

So, if you are thinking, “WOW. Who is the 21-year old whack job to tell me what I am supposed to and not supposed to read/watch??! You are intolerant! Judgmental! Who are YOU to say this?”

Well…who are YOU to say who are YOU? 

You have missed the point! My blog is my opinion and nothing more. I do NOT want to force my point of view on anyone. I am simply sharing what I believe and why I believe it. I am not pointing my finger and shaking it in your face. There is a difference between judgmental behavior and discernment. 

As a Christian woman, a Christian who is constantly battling against sin and temptation, I am choosing to not support Fifty Shades of Grey. There would be no positives to me reading or see this title. It would only pollute my mind, desensitize me, and pervert my view of sex.

"When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures." Galatians 5:19

And again, please note that I am not perfect. My opinion is not superior and I am not trying to preach. However, I do hope my perspective provided a new outlook on this topic!